How to Avoid Office Romance

While most people are invincible to office romance, there are always a few of those who are vulnerable to sexual tension and fall prey to romantic affairs at the office. Indeed, most employees are well aware of the potential risks they face with an office romance. This type of work relationship could result in losing all credibility at work, getting fired or even being accused of sexual harassment. Still, statistics show that most employees are willing to engage in this risky behavior.

Any romance can be distracting, never mind an office romance. When the object of your affection works with you, you may find yourself gazing at your sweetheart instead of tending to your job responsibilities. An office romance can complicate the relationship between boss and subordinate. It changes your working relationship significantly. Offering criticism, or receiving it, can be difficult. You may not be able to, or want to, look critically at your significant other's work and you might not be receptive to his or her critiques of your work.

Additionally, office romance has also been proven to be destructive towards relationships/marriages. According to a 2009 survey conducted by the job search website Career Builder, four in 10 workers admitted that they have dated a coworker or have admitted to an adulterous romantic clandestine with a colleague at some time during their careers. Given those statistics, it is obvious how tempting an office romance can be unless you take the necessary steps to avoid it.

Tip # 1

Before launching into an office romance, be clear on the company's policies regarding office relationships. Many companies large and small have hard and fast rules against relationships developing amongst co-workers. If it is against the rules, you have to ask yourself: "Is it worth it?" And, if it is, be discreet and prepare for any forthcoming consequences.

Tip # 2

Attend only work-related social events. Social events such as your company's parties, luncheons and dinners with the boss are great opportunities for you to get to know your coworkers, and you are almost always obligated to attend. You are not, however, expected to attend any of the events that are organized by your coworkers. Politely decline any invitation you are given to get together with your coworkers after work, even if you might be looked at as unfriendly.

Tip # 3

Keep your relationship with your employer and co-workers strictly professional. Avoid flirting, gossiping and delving into the personal lives of others at work. If your coworkers try to engage you in a conversation that is not related to work, steer the conversation back to a work-related topic. Keep the joking and office banter to a minimum. Refer to your employee handbook if you are ever in doubt about what is considered acceptable behavior.

Tip # 4

Avoid dating someone in your department. If a co-worker of the opposite sex exclusively asks you to join him/her for lunch or coffee, do not be afraid to politely decline his/her offer. Office politics and hierarchy should be top-of-mind, particularly when it comes to office romances. Choosing an entanglement with a co-worker - especially one at a different seniority level - could dramatically affect your salary or movement within your company. Avoid unwanted scrutiny and drama by avoiding dating those with whom you regularly work.